Are you
AGGRESSIVE?
- Do you focus only on getting your needs met, even at the expense of others' ?
- Do you consider your own opinion to be fact, and others' opinions to be irrelevant?
- Do you make decisions for other people, whether they want you to or not?
- Do you often use confrontation to get what you want?
- Do you tend to lose your temper?
- Do you shout or use bully techniques to get your way?
- Do you talk faster and louder than others to make your point heard?
- Do you call other people names and use obscenities when angry?
- Do you invade others' comfort zones with your body language.
- Do you refuse to take "no" for an answer?
- Do you continue to argue long after someone has had enough?
- Do you prefer to use coercion rather than persuasion?
- Do you openly criticize or find fault with others' ideas, options, or behaviors?
- Do you find fault in others and excuse your own feelings and behaviors?
Those are AGGRESSIVE behaviors. The thing is, aggressive
behavior often produces good results -- in the short run. While a passive person
might suffer immediately from his/her own behavior (the pain of denying their own
feelings, the lack of having their needs met), an aggressive person might
experience satisfaction as their immediate needs are met, they feel acknowledged,
and they have accomplished a victory over another. It is not always apparent to
an aggressive person that they are harming their relationship with others, and
that relationship satisfaction is important.

